Happy 18th Anniversary to US!!

Eighteen years ago, we started our marriage in love, broke (financially), bad credit (In my Charles Barkley voice “Turrible, just turrible.” LOL), determined, and with a whole lot of faith in our Lord, Jesus Christ. Over the years, we worked hard and the Lord blessed us to gain financial stability (Meaning we work. LOL) and to have excellent credit, but that’s not the most magnificent part of our journey.

In a world full of hate, anger, and misery, God gives us the ability (if we choose) to have joy (if we focus on Him). I heard someone define joy as a pervasive sense of well-being. That means, despite the darkness that has entrenched the world, our faith in our Lord has given us unspeakable joy throughout our marriage. This is the most magnificent part of our journey!! I’m so grateful He has blessed me with someone who is likeminded; determined to please the Lord in our marriage and in everything we do no matter the circumstances.

HAPPY 18th ANNIVERSARY, ANTOINE!! God really knew what He was doing when He put us together. I love every bit of our flawsomeness (flaws + awesomeness)!! I look forward to continuous growth in the Lord with you and pray we are blessed with many years together. You already know, I will FOEVA (forever) have your back, front, sides, top, and bottom. I love you to death!! (Meaning, until the day I die, which is 100% correct!!)

Just blogging it out!!

P.S. Please continue to pray for the world.

He Can and He Will

Shootings, earthquakes, hurricanes, fires, death, sickness, hardship, depression, hate, discrimination, division, abuse, sadness, disappointment, and the list goes on and on. The prayer list is endless. This is the reality we all live daily. All I can say to all the negativity that’s going on globally is JESUS!

The recent massacre in Las Vegas as well as all the other tragedies in the world are heartbreaking. Our faith in the Lord is everything because things have spun way out of control. Faith is knowing He Can and Will get us through. Although He never promised us a life without pain and suffering, He did promise to never leave us or forsake us. Faith is knowing that in spite of how it looks, God can and He will.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “Pray without ceasing.” We cannot stop praying even when things calm down. And we definitely can’t lose focus. Be grateful, pray for the world, and hug your loved ones, tight.

I’m not exempt. I’m . . .

Just blogging it out . . .Have a blessed evening!!

Photo-Somewhere in Alaska taken by Tanya M. Saldana






Let No Man . . .

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Mark 10:9)

My goodness!! It’s already the middle of September. Yikes!! Only 103 days until Christmas.

Now onto the topic-I have marriage on the brain. By the way, I love this picture of us because Antoine is really cracking up. I think he may have cut the cheese. LOL

I’m sure billions of people have quoted or have heard the above scripture quoted at weddings, etc. I’m not sure if the billions know who said it, but it is a well known Bible verse even outside of Christianity. It’s part of Jesus’ reply when the Pharisees asked Him if a man should be allowed to divorce his wife. Don’t worry, this blog post isn’t about divorce. LOL

If you know my husband and me personally or on social media, you know we are about as close as they come. We were close before we were married, so the natural progression is to grow even closer as we get older, right? I mean, after sharing the three B’s, bed (for sleeping and the sex 🙂 ), bathroom, and bank account, your spouse should definitely be the closest person to you. Once you say “I do”, life is easy peasy. NOT!! LOL

It amazes me when people question and comment on the authenticity of a relationship because the partnership seems “too happy” and “too close”. It’s actually sad if you think about it. Since God ordained marriage, why is it so surprising when a husband and wife thrive beyond the title, compensate for each other’s faults instead of criticize, or prefer each other’s company above all others? Think about it, especially if you’re one of those people who doubt the possibility. Okay, if one of them or both are sporting black eyes and handprints around the neck, I can see why there would be some suspicion. But if a couple loves the Lord and puts Him first in their marriage, that closeness is an easier choice than you think. Does that mean they are pretending their marriage is perfect? Hecky naw! (Chicago term for heck no. LOL) It means, in spite of their imperfections, they choose to continue to grow closer for as long as they both shall live. 🙂

red flag***Side note: I am NOT excusing chronic sinful behavior. Don’t ever let anyone abuse you in any way including adultery. Use wisdom and please seek counseling.***

I heard someone say, “If I had invited God into my first marriage, there wouldn’t have been a second.” Deep, huh? If you invite God and give Him permanent residence (foundation and all up in it), a solid and happy marriage is definitely an easier choice to make.

Marriage is a beautiful and powerful union. Let no man . . .

I’m not exempt. I’m just . . .

Blogging It Out. Oh, and Happy Wednesday!!

Please continue to pray for the recent hurricane and earthquake victims AND the whole world. We all need Him!!



Rely On the One Who Designed It

I love you, Lord; you are my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety. (Psalm 18:1,2)

Have you ever tried to do something you know is pretty much impossible? Something so far out T H E R E you know only God can do it. Yeah? Me too. I’m not ashamed to say, sometimes I forget to rely on God’s strength. I start asking myself questions like, “How am I going to do this?” or “Where am I going to get the money?” Look familiar? It’s okay, you don’t have to admit it. 🙂

Yesterday during my quiet time with the Lord, the two verses above popped in my head. They literally gave me life. Like someone used a defibrillator to deliver a charge to my heart.

“C L E A R!” LOL

One of my favorite Bible verses is Mark 10:27  Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”

If you know you’re on the right path, but it seems impossible, rely on the One who designed it. Relying on Jesus feels a whole heck of a lot better. He’ll give you everything you need.

I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging it out . . . Oh and Happy Thursday!!

Photo: Glacier Bay National Park, Alaska



Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. (Col 3:2)
I don’t remember where we were in Alaska, but this was well after 10 pm. I didn’t hear any activity going on around me as I stared at this beautiful sight. A great reminder for me to focus on God for peace. Sometimes we have to do a quick focus-check to figure out where we really are.

Where’s your focus? I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging it Out . . . Oh and Happy Sunday!






Hu shhhhh

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The Lord gives his people strength. The Lord blesses them with peace. (Psalm 29:11)

Sometimes, you have to stop and be quiet in order to truly focus on the Lord and receive His blessings. The activity and the chatter around you is the enemy trying to distract you. He’ll only succeed if you let him. So, have a seat, relax, and Hu shhhhh. I’m not exempt, I’m . . .

Just blogging it out . . . Oh, and Happy Thursday!

The Prerequisites

Hey! It’s been awhile since my last post. 🙂

Antoine and I attended a wedding which I deemed the event of 2017. In my eyes, it was because their union was evident years before they started planning. To me, they looked like they belong together. More importantly, these two people were trying to please God while they were single for years before they got married. They’ll most likely try to please God individually in their union. That is a recipe for a successful marriage. Yes, of course, they are in love with each other, but they were in love with God first.

Often times, newlywed couples seek the advice of seasoned married couples. Like there’s a secret to marriage success. I personally don’t think there’s a secret and the advice people give based on their marriage is sometimes irrelevant. What works in one marriage may not work in another. Contrary to popular belief, we’re all different.

The one thing I would say to anyone thinking about marriage is to evaluate your desire to please the Lord. Why? Because you can’t expect to have a successful marriage without Jesus as your foundation. I’M NOT SAYING YOU WON’T HAVE CHALLENGES!!  You’d have to be a frigging idiot to think there’s a such thing as a marriage without challenges. Oh, wait, I’m not supposed to say things like that because I’m a Christian. Let me rephrase. Nah, I think I like that statement just the way it is. LOL

What am I saying exactly? All marriages have situations that can develop into challenges and the way you handle those challenges will have an impact on your success. Naturally, you should try to handle situations before they become challenges. Unfortunately, no matter how proactive we are, sometimes stuff happens. All the more reason why we need JESUS!! Lol Without Him, there’s a great chance a marriage can end up in Kaputsville aka divorce.

Not sure why, but Type 2 Diabetes came to mind. If you get an annual check-up, your doctor will be able to warn you about your risk of developing Type 2 Diabetes. If your A1C shows signs of a risk, he or she will give you a referral to attend classes about diet, exercise, etc. to lower your risk of developing the disease. If you adhere, then you’ll most likely stay healthy. If you don’t, you’ll develop the disease, be put on a strict diet, and given meds. If you don’t change your diet and not take your meds, you’ll begin to have more complications like blindness, toe/limb amputations, and kidney problems/failure. Then eventually Kaputsville aka death. That’s a pretty serious comparison, but you get my drift.

Okay, back to the happy stuff. One of the main reasons why I agreed to marry Antoine besides love, is that I saw his genuine effort and desire to please the Lord. Notice I didn’t say he said he wanted to please the Lord. Actions speak louder than words.

So, if you’re dating someone you’re planning to marry or if you’re already engaged, evaluate your significant other’s and your desire and effort to please the Lord. Not by their or your words but by their and your actions. Be honest. It’s better to do this before you say “I do.”  Having a desire and putting forth true effort to please the Lord should be prerequisites for marriage. The evidence should be pretty clear if you take off the googly eyes. LOL googly eyes

One more quick story before I go . . .

I’ve had several conversations regarding my marriage. People have said positive things and of course, negative. I ignore negativity, so I won’t give those people a platform by repeating their crap here. Lol The other day, I told someone I never regretted my decision to marry Antoine or thought about getting a divorce. This person was shocked and even pondered whether or not I am an anomaly. LOL I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone that question, so I’m not sure how odd it is for someone to have never had those thoughts before. I also told the person if there were no Antoine Cook, born on September 15, 1971 at Ingalls Hospital in Harvey, IL to Alice Cook (At that time.), I wouldn’t be married. It’s true. How can I be so sure? I can’t explain it. I just know!! I also know Antoine feels the same about me. Ha! 🙂 Maybe this is a longshot, but I think the couple above feel the same way about each other.

CONGRATULATIONS, MR. & MRS. DUNN. Keep your eyes on Him and you’ll be just fine in His hands.

We should all desire and put forth effort to please the Lord in marriage and every area of our lives. I’m not exempt, I’m just . . .

Blogging It Out . . . Oh, and Happy Saturday Night!! 😀